Exodus 16 – Three Solutions to Chronic Complaining

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In Exodus 16, Israel was delivered from Egypt and crossed the Red Sea on dry ground. Israel was on the other side of the Red Sea, but there was a problem – the people were hungry, angry and discontent – they started to murmur and complain and ventured into dangerous territory.

Today, complaining has become a part of ‘normal’ daily conversation. Many people see complaining as a natural thing that we are just supposed to do. It would seem that if you aren’t complaining then you’re considered an anomaly. Being complaint-free is almost considered a virtue because it’s so rare to encounter people who never complain.

However, we learn in Exodus 16 and other places throughout scripture (Philippians 2:14, Ephesians 4:29, James 5:9, Numbers 11, 1 Corinthians 10:10) that complaining is evil. And the reasons are obvious.

When we complain, we are ungrateful. There is a lack of graciousness or thankfulness that we are simply alive. Second, complaining is not from the Lord; complaining is from Satan. Satan tempts us to complain, but let’s not fall for the temptation and open the door to the devil. Complaining and being discontent is simply bait.

The second thing that’s worth mentioning is that complaining and pride are linked. People who complain have a pride problem. Pride is dangerous – and complaining is simply a byproduct of pride.

If you have the habit of complaining I suggest three things:

First, go to God and ask for forgiveness. Repent if you’re a complainer and close any demonic spiritual doors that you’ve opened as a result of complaining.

Second, thank Him for all that you have. Be grateful. The opposite of complaining is gratitude. Creating a gratitude list is a powerful way to keep a complaint-free life. It’s difficult to complain when you’re examining the blessings in your life. Everyone I know (including myself) that’s created a gratitude list has been immensely blessed by it.

The third thing that I’ll suggest is to get a complaint bracelet. Sometimes it’s easier to conquer an undesirable habit by becoming aware of it. Some people simply aren’t aware of how much they actually complain. The complaint bracelet should be somewhat difficult to remove – wear it on your arm, and switch arms every time you complain. You’ll become more mindful of your thought life. I’ve done this before in the past, and it works.

How to Live a Complaint-Free Life

Many of our anxieties and frustrations are fueled by our complaints.  When we complain, we set ourselves up to embrace disappointment.  There is nothing wrong with saying how you feel, and being perfectly honest about those feelings.

However, venting turns into complaining when it takes on a “why me?” tone. When we have a pity party that is more concerned with why we feel a certain way instead of what we can do about it, we become complainers. Below are a few tips to help you maintain a complaint free life:

Have an attitude of gratitude  

Is it really that bad? Ask yourself if it could be worse.  If it could be worse be thankful that it’s not. Having a spirit of thanksgiving eliminates complaints. The next time you feel like complaining, count your blessings and be grateful for the life that you have. Being thankful is a cure for complaining.

Replace Complaining with Contemplating

We complain when something is broke, we are broke, plans have gone awry, there is no cell phone signal, no wifi, our cat peed on the rug, our husband drank the last cup of coffee, and so on. Complaints often arise when there is a problem. Instead of complaining about the problem, spend time contemplating a solution. When our focus shifts from the problem to the answer, the complaining stops.

Look for the silver lining

My former house had so many spiders. No matter how clean the house was they scampered down the hallway or dropped from the ceiling.  While I could have complained about the fact I lived in a place with more spiders than the Amazon, instead, I looked for the silver lining in the situation. So what is the silver lining? The silver lining is that at least I had a home for the spiders to invade, and I didn’t live in the Amazon. Always look for the silver lining.